5 Lessons Learned About Being Softened

| May 15, 2017

5 lessons learned about being softened

Easter Sunday morning I lay on my back in bed, contemplating getting up, when Ruthie (our daughter’s half-tabby, half Siamese “hearing-aid” cat) came in. She got on the bed, and then, very surprisingly, got on me. She walked around, and started kneading, or softening me up, as cats sometimes do, and sat on my stomach, continuing to knead. Ruthie has never done that before. I love cats who do that.

Boston (our daughter’s older, male tabby foster cat) has sat in bed with me and softened the bed and the wall (you can hear him stretching as his claws open and closed), but hasn’t really done it on me. I felt initiated into a special community I haven’t belonged to in decades. That’s how long it’s been since a cat favored me with softening up.

A Memory from the Past

This relationship with our daughter’s cats triggered a memory, one I’ve toyed with writing about for awhile. It involves a “mother” cat we had when I was growing up. She was a gray tortoise shell type, and her name was Fluffy, although, in our family, cats got multiple names. She was Fluffy, and Muffy, and one of my brothers, the family’s official cat-namer, also dubbed her “Mooove” – a shortened version of the “movement” she made as she approached a person lying on the couch to begin kneading them for lying on top of. Regardless of what you called her, she was the best at softening us up.

Fluffy was a mother to most of us six kids as we grew up. She once disappeared but came back after at least five years’ absence. I can’t say I’ve ever heard of a cat returning after that long. My mom said she must have been mothering somebody else for awhile.

After I had left home, my mom reported that, on the day my sister, six years younger than me, graduated from high school, they came back to find that Fluffy had passed away. Mom said she guessed she figured out she was done raising us and could rest.

So what lessons about cats and life with God did I learn from being softened up?

5 Lessons Learned About Being Softened

1.) You have to be still.

“Be still and know that I am God” should pop into your head about now. Neither Ruthie nor Fluffy would climb on top if I were moving around. We want to be busy doing God’s work, but God might just be back there waiting for us to stop moving and let Him.  We are just too independent or reliant on our own efforts sometimes. I know I am. And my own efforts have proved time after time, year after year, to be worthless. I am currently waiting out a dry, virtually writing-less season of almost a year and a half so God can do the writing, not me. It’s more than a little scary, but in the meantime, I hope He’s softening me up.

2.) It’s a little prickly, but it makes you feel really good!

soften my heartPeople who don’t love cats probably aren’t reading this anyway, but if you do, you know what I mean about being softened up, especially with a good dose of purring thrown in. It must release a lot of endorphin’s because I get a huge mood boost from it. Just so, when God is working in our lives, those claw-involved kneadings (“our light affliction which is but for a moment”) are such little hurts compared to “the glory which will be revealed in us.” The ultimate euphoria has got to be when we see what God’s been doing to make us more fruitful.

3.) There are times when you feel like you aren’t getting any kneading.

It’s obvious when a cat is “snubbing” you. It makes you feel a bit lonely and lost. Sometimes I feel like God is not doing anything in my life. But Scriptures tell us that God never leaves us or forsakes us. If you get that feeling, try to figure out who moved and it will come to you, that maybe it’s time to stop and be available for God to be close to you again. He won’t always be on top of you like a sleeping cat, but the joy of the Lord can be your strength, and, also unlike a cat, He will never, ever snub us.

4.) Fostering a relationship helps.

You can do things to get closer to the next kneading time. Cats normally show appreciation for humans who make themselves available. Giving a cat treats is sort of like praying and praising God. Sitting down or lying down makes a cat comfortable about approaching. Just so, God will move closer when we are trying to be available. That’s all we can do, since Scripture tells us our own efforts can’t bring us closer. But if we read His Word, pray, praise, practice unselfishness, etc. we might experience a “movement” of God, like the ones Fluffy favored us with.

5.) Always be grateful and remember who’s taking care of whom.

Boston tells us in no uncertain terms when he wants to go out. He stretches up for the doorknob, perfectly aware that if he could just get a “handle” on that round thing he could make for the woods just a few dozen yards away, catch those birds, and no longer need us humans. Ruthie can snub us for hours, just out of reach. It’s a scary thing to admit, but God does not require humans. Good to know, however, that He, just like most cats, wants Puts up with us. Make us better by seeking us out and shaping us into “vessels unto honor.”

God may not need us, but He does knead us. And just like being softened up by kitties, that can result in good things happening. Comfort, joy, peace, and more.

What About You?

Please share a time when you felt as if God was softening you up, or if you’re currently waiting for Him to move. As I said before, I feel like He must be doing it to me right now, with writing, and being still and waiting is really hard. It bothers me to think people are going to notice me being “inactive” and I will lose audience or reputation, which I know is selfish.Grace and Truth

Do you get embarrassed about waiting for God? Maybe even feel lazy or useless like I do? Waiting can be pretty lonely, too. I was just sharing with some other writers going through dry times and they were glad to know they were not alone. I’m with you, whatever you are waiting for, and would love to have a chance to be an encouragement, and have you encourage me.


mary findleyMary Findley

Mary C. Findley has poured her real life into her writing. From the cover designs inspired by her lifelong art studies to the love of pets and country life that worm their way into her historicals. The never-say-die heroes in her twenty-some fiction works are inspired by her husband, a crazy smart man with whom she co-writes science and history-based nonfiction. She’s a strong believer in helping others and also has books about publishing and the need to have strong standards in reading and writing.

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22 Comments

  • Reply Andrea May 15, 2017 at 7:18 am

    I think sometimes God is trying to indeed soften our hearts so we may become more like Him!

  • Reply Heather Hart May 15, 2017 at 8:01 am

    Being still is hard for me. Really hard. But I have to remember that it is so worth it.
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  • Reply Amy Christensen May 15, 2017 at 10:22 am

    This was a fun post! My adult daughter has a wonderful black cat, who will sit on my lap and knead. God seems to always be doing this to me. He pushes and pokes and purrs, reminding me how important it is that I make time for Him. Love the analogy! Thanks for sharing. – Amy

  • Reply Peggy Overstreet May 15, 2017 at 11:32 am

    As a cat mama of 4, I definitely identify with this, on many levels. I’ve learned many God-lessons from my many furkids over the years. Well written!

  • Reply Heather May 15, 2017 at 2:56 pm

    This was such a wonderful read, not only because I love reading about God, but also because cats are the greatest animals on the planet in my opinion haha! It is so hard trying to be still and know that God is working in us. I love feeling his presence and it is scary when I don’t feel he is as near as he used to be. He never does forsake us though and that is a such a comfort.

  • Reply Susan Evans May 15, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    I feel like God is doing the opposite of softening me–he is strengthening me though fire after fire. As I lean heavily on Him, I don’t allow the slashing words of others to affect me because my shield of faith is up. God has taught me to rely on Him alone.
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  • Reply Alice Mills May 15, 2017 at 5:07 pm

    I have five cats and know exactly what you mean. What a great word picture. I try to imagine the Holy Spirit as a dove. Am I still enough for Him to rest on me?
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  • Reply Kristi May 15, 2017 at 10:15 pm

    Such good points brought up from a sweet memory! I often think of Esther when I feel like I’m not seeing God actively in my life. It reminds me that he is always working behind the scenes, in the details, and I just have to trust that he hasn’t forgotten about me.
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  • Reply Tara May 16, 2017 at 9:08 am

    I’m so glad God loves us enough to not leave us where we are. What awful people we would be without his nudging!
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  • Reply Kate May 18, 2017 at 9:29 am

    Being still and waiting is so hard for me. I do feel lazy and embarrassed. I am in an enforced waiting period in my life, and your words are so encouraging! Thanks

  • Reply Aimee Imbeau May 25, 2017 at 10:01 pm

    I appreciated this post! I particularly appreciated that you included point #3. We don’t always ‘feel’ God, but He is still there – always. We need to learn to trust Him instead of our fickle feelings. I have chosen to feature your post on this week’s Grace and Truth. Stop by to get your “I was featured” button.
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