My mom used to tell me that I was a people person. I thrive on relationships with others. Connecting with others and getting to know the real them, I love it.
And God has used that in my life in some major ways.
Most notably, He has used the honesty of others to help me grow in Him.
Candid Christian Women
The first time a Christian woman admitted to me that she didn’t have it all together, it felt like a huge burden was lifted.
Looking back, this woman whose confession changed my life, wasn’t just any Christian woman in my eyes.
She was our pastor’s daughter-in-law, super fit, and a stay-at-home, super mom who was part of the worship team and an international missionary. I’m telling you, she was everything a good Christian should be from my stand point, and she knew her Bible inside and out.
And then she confessed that she struggled with depression.
That she questioned her faith because of an overwhelming feeling of worthlessness.
This was my super woman, and she struggled just like I did.
Another time the woman who hosted our weekly women’s Bible study confessed that her house wasn’t always as clean as it was when we arrived. In fact, she said if we showed up unannounced at any other time during the week, that it would be a wreck.
Again, a huge burden was lifted.
Not because I rejoiced in their struggles, but because it made me realize that struggling was okay.
Who knew it was okay to be less than perfect?
Her candid confession was a balm to my soul.
Many other candid confessions have followed. Some of them speak to me, others make me hurt for the women who are going through them all alone.
When I’ve shared my own candid confessions with other christian women, I usually get one of two responses.
Encouraging Support or Utter Condemnation
Sometimes well-meaning Christian women come across the wrong way. Most of them don’t mean to, but it happens from time to time.
And it happens often enough to make us scared to get candid.
Because this is the first post on this website, I want to take the time to let you know that this is a safe place to get candid. We won’t be publishing any harsh comments directed at other commenters or our bloggers. If you want to get judgmental, go for it. I’ll listen, I promise to read it, I just won’t post it for everyone else.
Candidly Christian is designed to be a safe haven for women who are ready to get candid.
We are Vulnerable
Just because we are on the other side of the computer screen doesn’t make us any less flesh and blood, and it doesn’t make your words hurt any less. In fact, sometimes it can make them hurt more.
We can’t see your tears.
We can’t see your beautiful smile.
We can’t hear the emotion behind your words or the tone of your voice.
All we get are your words.
Write them with love.