When Life Gives You Lemons
If you had the power to change any of your circumstances, would you? We all live with something that we want changed. Life can be hard sometimes. I know I have gone through seasons where it was hard; no, it was down-right deathly.
But, what do you do when your circumstances don’t change? You have no magic wand so to speak to make a different outcome. There is no rescue around that you can think of. No escape route. You must just go through it. Then what?
Let’s be honest we don’t like pain. But what if you have to live with it. What if your circumstance is one that only God can change and He doesn’t seem to be moving too fast on your time table?
What if what you are going through is a test by God? What if it is a growing season for you, a time of stretching? A time to reshape who you are? A time to let God be God? A time to develop your dreams?
My friend, I have news for you—it is all that and more!
Oh, do we like comfort. We do not want to go through more than we have to. But the reality is we must learn to live with some of our difficult circumstances, because only God has the power to alter them—and in His providence, He’s allowed them to remain.
Sometimes, our best laid plans don’t come to pass the way we think. We have planned our life a certain way we thought we would be best but we didn’t anticipate the route God would use to bring us to the place He has for us.
My Difficult Circumstances
I went through an unwanted divorce. I didn’t plan for that. I didn’t want that. But God, in His wisdom allowed it to happen and all the people involved He allowed them to hurt me. Was that His best plan for me? No.
But, in the pain, a lot of times is where we find our greatest healing. It’s in those times we discover our greatest strength and reward.
As I went through and extremely painful, unwanted divorce, it showed me a part of me I didn’t know existed. The pain of the divorce, depression and loss brought gifts and talents I had to the surface. It changed by worldview of people and pain that we as women suffer. It taught me compassion for those like me that most people will never know or feel.
Sometimes you have to crush a flower to smell the fragrance. I was crushed. But that crushing brought forth an aroma of my life that is here to stay. An aroma that is drawing for other women in pain to heal.
Are you going through a crushing now? Are you at the breaking point of pain and want God to change your circumstance? I am here to tell you that you can make it through your dark night season. It won’t kill you. You will just feel like it is.
3 Promises to Remember
Here are three things to remember when you can’t see your circumstance changing:
1.) God is near to the brokenhearted.
God will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter what you are facing. When I as in the darkest pit of depression from a husband that walked out on me and my sons, I knew God never left. It felt like it, but I knew He didn’t.
The Scripture says that He is near to the brokenhearted. But, there were times I felt that verse should have said He is near to the cremated heart and life. I would run to my master bedroom closet and lay in the floor for hours on end holding my pillow wet with tears. I would lay there screaming in pain and fall asleep wondering if he was near only to be awaken by His presence so near I could feel His breath on my face. I knew that He was with me in that closet even if I had to run there a million times in anger, hurt, and panic. He was near to my broken heart.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Psalm 34:18 NIV
2.) God is good.
This is so true or me and for you. God is good. No matter what your circumstance looks like, no matter how bad it gets, no matter the loss, God is good. He isn’t good, then bad, then good again. He is forever good all the time. If you are in Him (and you are because the word says you are) then you are in a good place.
Just because something bad is allowed to happen to you doesn’t mean that God is not a good God. Trust in His goodness towards you and never let it go. I had to tell the enemy many times, in that same closet, “this doesn’t feel good but I know you are good”. You can let no other thought fill your heart about God.
“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever.”
3.) God is faithful.
One thing you must make sure you hold to and never forget is the faithfulness of God. His word is true. No matter what the circumstance looks like, God is faithful to you and to His word. The bible says that He watches over His word to perform it. God will not let His Word fail. Not a jot or a tittle. Whatever those are. My point is, God is a faithful God.
The entire time I was in a dark season, I never went without food, clothes, car, a word of encouragement, strength, love, and more. His faithfulness to provide some of the smallest unimportant things was given to me. He cared for me. He was faithful to listen to me in my darkest place. He was faithful to rescue me from trouble bills, sickness and car trouble. He was faithful.
“God is faithful, who has called you into fellowship with his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.”
1 Corinthians 1:9
Living for Jesus
Your circumstance may seem unfair and unjust. It may be a misfortune that has come your way. If you let God use it for His glory and you walk out the pain, even if you don’t see it changing, you will be rewarded.
I was rewarded in more ways than I can name in this article. I obtained more gain for my pain. I became something I never would have had not the circumstance been allowed to touch my life. I look back now and I am so glad God didn’t rescue me quickly and take me out of my situation.
Through walking out my pain, I became the author I dreamed about. I wrote two books with many more on the way. Through that circumstance that wasn’t changing the way I thought, through the detour it looked like God was taking me, I finished Bible school with a doctorate. I got a job at my church and I now coach women clients to wholeness and through unforgiveness to healing in their souls. Through that pain, I walked out of depression and anger and bitterness.
I learned that God never changes. He is faithful. He is just.
From My Life to Yours
What looks like your worst problem, your worst circumstance, can transform into your biggest blessing. Your circumstance could be God’s ordained path for your life with a twist at the end. God will use every circumstance we go through if we belong to Him. Every problem will accomplish His will and plan.
Let Christ be exalted in you even if you don’t see any change in your current problem.
So, to answer the question I asked you at the beginning, would I change my circumstance if I could? No. Because walking through a wilderness, walking through an impossible circumstance, living with a broken heart, became the best thing that happened to me.
When life gives you lemons, how do you handle it? Have you seen any blessings come from difficult circumstances, or are you going through something we can pray with you about? Let us know in the comments below.