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Written by Elo Claire Odogbo
I struggled with approval addiction for a long time. I guess it comes with the territory of being the last born. You are typically the baby of the family and showered with attention. However, growing up surrounded by people who love you has its challenges when you go out into the world, and you find that your charm doesn’t work as readily as it once did.
I remember having a conversation with a young lady who was burnt in this area. She had this beautiful relationship with people who were the “popular ones” – you know, those ones who have this ability to attract people like ants to sugar.
She was devastated, however, when these relationships turned sour. As this happened in a church community, she felt unloved, somewhat rejected and abandoned. It was apparent while speaking to her that she was so fixated on having certain people as her friends that she was missing out on the opportunities that God was sending her way to both love and be loved.