My daughter has a concussion. She was helping pick up balls at her sister’s softball practice on Monday when her head and a bat accidentally collided. It could have been worse, but it wasn’t.
However, she does have several restrictions on what she can and can’t do during the healing process. A process that could take months.
After school yesterday, she was in tears because of all the things she isn’t allowed to do, and I couldn’t help but think, “how often do we get stuck there?”
How often do we fail to see the blessings because of what we can’t have?
How often do we put our focus on what’s going wrong?
Count Your Blessings
Last December, I had a really bad season. One thing after another, after another just kept going wrong. One of the biggest things that helped get me through that time was counting my blessings.
And when my daughter was in tears after school on Wednesday, we helped her refocus by looking at all the things she could do. All of the blessings that came out of her bad situation. This morning she was practically giddy because she could wear a long skirt and slip on shoes to school. One of her favorite outfits that she normally can’t wear because of gym class. But because she’s hurt, she can’t participate in gym class.
Remembering to count your blessings can change everything. Not in the literal sense, but the way we perceive it.
“Remembering to count your blessings can change everything. Not in the literal sense, but the way you perceive it.”
But we still struggle with this, don’t we ladies? I do (especially lately). I get distracted and forget to refocus. So today, I’m taking a moment to remind myself to count my blessings, and I thought you might like to join me.
3 Ways To Count Your Blessings When Things Go Wrong
So how do you count your blessings when things go wrong?
1.) Count The Wins
Last year my husband and I both had doctor’s appointments out-of-town, but at different times, and he came straight from work. Thus, we were in two separate cars. So when his car broke down, I should have been halfway home, but something had happened and I was running late. So I was still there and was able to pick him up. That was a huge blessing.
My daughter has a concussion, but the CT scan came back negative for the orbital eye fracture the doctor was concerned about. In fact, the only symptom she has (other than the huge bump on her head and black eye) is a headache.
I have a constant headache, but I have an amazing support system and people who understand that I do what I can (not everyone understands, but the important people do).
Yesterday when it was pouring down rain and I was tempted to grumble, I had to remember how much we need the rain. Here in Texas we are in a drought, and that rain was a huge blessing.
Anything that could have gone wrong, but didn’t is definitely a win. Some wins are good things that come from it, like a rainy day during a drought. Which actually brings me to number two on our list…
2.) Consider Any Good Things That May Come From It
My daughter was excited about sitting out of gym class from the beginning. I have four kids, three of them are extremely athletic, and then I have my girly girl. She loves basketball and roller skating, but that’s about it. Getting sweaty really isn’t her thing. Dresses and jewelry, that’s more her style. So counting this as a win was easy. But that isn’t always the case…
When my husband’s car broke down, we counted the extra time we got to spend together that day as a hidden blessing. He works out-of-town and with four kids we are constantly on the go, so we cherish the time we have together.
My head always hurts, but in the past nine months I have re-evaluated my life and learned a lot about priorities. And God is teaching me about perseverance.
Good things can be hidden blessings, or unexpected side-effects. Anything good that wouldn’t have happened without the heartache or bad situation.
3.) Remember What Hasn’t Changed
Sometimes we just have to step back and look at our life. We have to count our blessings that haven’t changed. I have an amazing family. My husband loves me. We have a home… I could go on and on.
In all honesty, I have an amazing life, my head just hurts while I live it. When I really stop to consider everything, I am blessed beyond measure.
Remembering our blessings that haven’t changed can help us keep bad experiences in perspective.
One More Thing…
James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above.”
While counting our blessings, we should always remember that they are gifts from God. Remember that you aren’t alone, and that He is always with you. Because that is the biggest blessing of all.
So what about you? How do you count your blessings when things go wrong? We would love to hear from you in the comments below!
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