I am exhausted.
It doesn’t matter how much sleep I get, it seems like I’m always tired.
I’m sure it has something to do with being a mom.
It’s summer time, so my kids are home all day and they have endless amounts of energy. And somehow, they can make even the most relaxing activities into contact sports.
- Listening to music? Dance marathon.
- Watching TV? Jump rope, balance on a ball, or something extra creative, but as equally energetic.
- Playing video games? Hop around and give an extra loud and dramatic commentary.
Oh and don’t forget to add in the, “Hey mom, watch this!” comments that are sure to be inserted randomly, but frequently throughout any activity.
Queue The Mom Guilt
It’s not that I don’t love my kids. I do. And I am so blessed to be able to stay home with them, but that doesn’t make it any less exhausting.
And being exhausted can make me feel like a bad mom.
Trying to accomplish something for the day and not wanting to be interrupted one. More. Time. Can make me feel ashamed.
Let’s just say I am no stranger to mom guilt. But I am also no stranger to Jesus, and I know that He doesn’t think any less of me for being worn out and at the end of my rope.
Because there is no condemnation for those of us who are in Jesus.
Jesus came because He knew we would need Him.
And while Jesus came and died one time, for all time, we need Him every day. I need Him every day.
Because of Jesus
I need to be reminded that because of Jesus, it’s okay to admit that I’m not the perfect mom.
In fact, my kids don’t need me to be the perfect mom (which is good because “the perfect mom” is a myth). What my kids need is a mom who loves them and who isn’t afraid to point them to Jesus. And even with that, I can trust that their salvation ultimately isn’t up to me.
I can rest in the knowledge that God is in control. He is in control whether I am playing board games, swimming in the pool, talking about Jesus, or taking a nap. He is in control when I am calm and collected, and He is in control when I am jumpy and grumpy.
One thing Jesus has been teaching me this summer is that my mood swings say more about my relationship with Jesus than they do about my parenting.
Keeping It All In Perspective
Satan would love to use my failures to make me question my worth as a mom, but Jesus says my failures should be arrows pointing me back to Him. My insecurities are a sign of a spiritual struggle, not a lack of worth. Because my worth is secure. My value is assigned by my Creator, not by my mom skills.
When I am tired and grouchy, Jesus calls me to rest in His love. To repent from a sinful attitude if I have one, but also to live unashamed.
Moms, it’s okay to be tired.
When my kids stress me out because they have been running on high all day, it’s okay to need a break. It’s okay to long for a few moments alone.
It’s okay to be the woman I was created to be, even when that woman needs five minutes of peace and quiet or ends up with a headache at the end of the day.
My worth doesn’t change when my kids are rowdy and rambunctious. It is unaffected by my temper. Regardless of how my day goes, I can stand tall as a child of God.
My righteousness comes from Christ alone, and my standing before my Savior doesn’t depend on me, because I have been washed in the blood of Christ.
What area of your life do you feel the most guilty about? Do you ever just slow down and take a moment to remember the gospel?
Our worth doesn’t change when our kids are rowdy and rambunctious. It is unaffected by our temper. Regardless of how our day goes, we can stand tall as children of God.
If you liked this blog post, keep your eyes open for Heather’s upcoming book, Candid Conversations, where she has partnered with 25 other Christian women. While each story shares a unique perspective, the prevailing theme is that we all struggle, but there is hope to be found in Jesus. Coming August 13th, 2018. Kindle edition now available for pre-order.