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When God’s Grace is Greater Than Common Sense

When God’s Grace is Greater Than Common Sense

Heather Hart · October 16, 2019 · 18 Comments

As soon as I hit send I saw it. The answer to my question. If only I had kept reading. But I didn’t. And now I looked like an idiot. And I had wasted her time.

I sent another email to apologize and let her know I found the answer, still beating myself up.

Later that same morning my kids and I were crowded around the dining room table talking about riddles. Apparently one of their teachers favors the one about Mary’s mother. If you haven’t heard it, it goes a something like this:

Mary’s mother has four daughters. The first three are named April, May, and June. What’s the name of her fourth daugher?

There are a few different variations of it, but the gist is always the same.

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Common Sense Isn’t Always All That Common

My kids said their teacher says it should be common sense and doesn’t think anyone should ever get it wrong.

But can I be honest?

Sometimes the simplest things are the easiest to overlook.

I get ahead of myself like I did when sending the email that morning. Or my brain fills in missing pieces with what I know should be there. Or some weird combination of the two and I end up thinking Mary’s mom has a daughter named July.

Mistakes Happen

How to fight self-condemnation with the gospel

I can’t express to you how much self-condemnation I was heaping on myself over the email thing. It was a first-time communication for work and I had made a bad impression. I just couldn’t let it go.

But I had to stop and remind myself of something I say quite often. It’s actually a Bible verse.

Romans 8:1 says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

I had to ask myself why it is easy to cling to that verse dealing with my sins and struggles, yet so hard for me to accept it when I feel like I’ve dropped the ball?

To Be Completely Candid…

I was talking to the other Candid Gals late last month about clinging to the fact that there is no condemnation for those of us who find our worth in Christ when others were trying to shame me. Yet here I was shaming myself.

Do you ever do that?

Are you your own worst critic?

Because that’s what it comes down to for me.

How To Fight Self-Condemnation With The Gospel

I know to the very core of my being that there is no condemnation for those of us who belong to Jesus, so sometimes I just have to ask myself if it’s true or not. If it is, then I need to let it go and move on.

Beyond that, I have to remind myself that Jesus died so I could be forgiven. Yes, I am a sinner. I will fail. I will make mistakes. But even if I burn bridges, I will never out-sin the grace of God.

We are called to forgive those who sin against us seventy-seven times. I think that includes ourselves.

3 Questions To Ask Yourself When Faced With Self-Condemnation

Instead of heaping self-condemnation, maybe I should have spent a little more time looking at my situation. To give you an idea of what walking through that looks like, I have started asking myself these questions:

1.) Do I belong to Jesus and believe His death was enough?

If the answer is yes (which it always is), then I have to remind myself that there is no condemnation for those of us who belong to Jesus. (Just that reminder helps me breathe a little deeper.)

2.) Was what I did a sin?

If the answer was yes, I should repent and ask for God’s forgiveness. Then, accept His forgiveness, forgive myself and move on.

3.) Is there anything I needed to do to fix the situation?

If the answer is yes, then I should do so. If not, then it’s time to move on.

Join The Conversation

What about you?

Do you struggle with self-condemnation? Is there a thought process you use to talk yourself out of the pit? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

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P.S. If you haven’t heard the riddle about Mary’s mom before, her fourth daughter’s name is Mary.

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  1. KellyRBaker says

    October 16, 2019 at 8:46 am

    Such a powerful truth in Romans 8:1. I love that verse! Condemnation has no place in our lives. Thanks for sharing your story.

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 16, 2019 at 9:13 am

      Thanks for stopping in, Kelly! Romans 8:1 is one of those verses that permeates my life and just soaks into my soul.

      Reply
  2. Valerie Riese says

    October 16, 2019 at 9:29 am

    I always own up to these things and apologize and try to correct the error. I beat myself up in the sense that I just feel like a liability and I’m embarrassed that I can’t behave like a normal adult. I love your #1 and how all three steps end with “move on”. I’ll work on remembering step 1 going forward. Thank you for sharing this post and your thoughts on self-condemnation. Very encouraging 🙂

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 16, 2019 at 10:37 am

      I think owning up to them is important, but sometimes I get stuck in “I’m sorry” mode. I feel so horrible I go overboard apologizing, so I have to watch myself and make sure I don’t make it worse by apologizing too much. You know, because that’s a thing.

      Reply
  3. Kristi Woods says

    October 16, 2019 at 9:58 am

    This has been a battle for me. I love how you list the three questions. That’ll get girls like me thinking. Fighting self-condemnation with the gospel is a sure win.

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 16, 2019 at 10:38 am

      Thanks, Kristi!

      Reply
  4. DONNA MILLER says

    October 16, 2019 at 10:37 am

    God’s Grace > Common Sense. Love it! We battle condemnation everyday and need God’s Truth to saturate us and crowd out all the enemy’s lies. Thank you for this beautiful post Heather! ❤

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 16, 2019 at 10:39 am

      Thanks, Donna! Sometimes it’s just a matter of reminding ourselves what we know to be true.

      Reply
  5. Nicki Schroeder says

    October 16, 2019 at 11:01 am

    Such powerful truths our hearts need to be reminded of constantly. I love “Sometimes the simplest things are the easiest to overlook.” I think it’s so true, we often make stuff way more complicated than they need to be. Great post! 🙂

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 16, 2019 at 11:35 am

      Thanks, Nicki! Sometimes I’m my own worst enemy.

      Reply
  6. Jessica Schneider says

    October 16, 2019 at 1:44 pm

    This is my life right now in a way. My favorite thing you say here is “I will never out-sin the grace of God”. Thank you.

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 16, 2019 at 5:01 pm

      I remind myself of that all the time, Jessica! I don’t know when I came up with that, or if I heard it somewhere, but I love that saying, too. So thankful for God’s grace.

      Reply
  7. Jennifer Love says

    October 16, 2019 at 8:39 pm

    Hi! I could relate to this so much! I don’t know if this is a thought process but I’ve also added asking a question in prayer and waiting to sense an answer, like – Is there any lie that I’m believing about… who I am? What I’m capable of? What they will think of me?
    These lead me to see perhaps why this self-condemnation weighs so much in this situation. Hope that helps!

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 17, 2019 at 11:07 am

      That’s a great question to ask yourself. Jennifer!

      Reply
  8. Ashley Rowland | HISsparrowBlog says

    October 17, 2019 at 11:10 am

    Oh, my goodness! Your email situation could have been about me. I do that to myself ALL THE TIME. Loved your post and your questions to ask yourself. I’ll be keeping those in mind.

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 17, 2019 at 1:09 pm

      Thanks, Ashley! I think it’s so easy to be our own worst critic because we know all our failures. We can’t hide anything from ourselves.

      Reply
  9. Rebecca Jones says

    October 17, 2019 at 5:38 pm

    Read Romans 8:2 as well, I used to hear Romans 3:23 , falling short of His glory, but then there is 24. Mary is the answer. I hate those math questions. I think we all do this . We are not alone. I love that picture I can relate to the woman with her head on the desk.

    Reply
    • Heather Hart says

      October 17, 2019 at 5:44 pm

      Yes! I am so thankful for Jesus. And we all get frustrated from time to time. Even if we don’t physically put our head on our desk, it’s a good mental picture of frustration.

      Reply

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