How To Overcome Insecurity with Jesus

March 19, 2018 |

Shortly after we got married my husband decided that he wanted a baby. I was not ready for a baby. He basically begged me for one, but only 6 months into marriage, I just wanted to enjoy marriage for a while before having children.

This was right around Christmas time, and since I wouldn’t give him a baby, he decided he wanted a dog and started to look for one online. No, I didn’t want a dog either. I figured that he would just let it go but he never did. Two weeks later, he was back on the computer looking for dogs, and he found one that he fell in love with: Langston. No, I still didn’t want a dog.

God changed my heart though, because a few days later I decided to surprise Mike and complete an application to adopt Langston. We had a conversation with the woman who was fostering him and she asked us if we would consider taking his sister too. That wasn’t an option, but thankfully it wasn’t a deal breaker. It actually would have been a deal breaker a few weeks earlier. You see, Langston and his sister were found on the side of a road in Arkansas. He was a scared lost puppy, who we were told wouldn’t even play with a ball when he first arrived at the foster’s home. He apparently screamed when she tossed a soccer ball at him to play. But with time and love he began to warm up and become more trusting.

Now, 5 years later he is a 45lb lap dog who loves his family, and loves to run and play… even with soccer balls! He is part of our family.

Beautiful & Loved

Do you ever feel like you are lost in a crowd? Swimming in a sea of wrongs? Scared of life? Or maybe drowning in the insecurities and fears that surround you?

I remember crippling insecurities and fears. I would be lying if I said they didn’t show up here and there. However, a couple months before we got Langston I just got tired of them to the point that I went on a make-up fast. Giving up make-up for a couple months was a representation of me wanting my security, identity, and confidence to be in Jesus. I admit, that although some days were easy, there were other days that it would have been easier to hide behind the make-up.

Early on in the fast someone asked me, “Why aren’t you wearing make-up? I replied by saying that I didn’t need make-up to be beautiful, and what was said in reply shocked me. “Pfft. Who told you that?”

Ouch. That really hurt. I cried as I got in my car to drive to work, and it was during those tears that I felt God whisper to my broken heart, You are beautiful, you are loved.

And then I cried because although I always had believed God loved me, that was the first time that I knew that I knew that I knew, with everything in me, that He loved me.

You are beautiful and loved...

You are beautiful. You are loved. And by the Creator of everything.

Created By God

The other day something happened that made me incredibly aware that He is truly in the intricate details of our lives. Intricate, the finest details. Just like you were intricately woven in your mother’s womb. Carefully wrought, woven, like a carefully made tapestry.

You are thoughtfully and wonderfully made.

I don’t know about you, but when I am making something for someone I love, I take extra care in creating it. The thought that the God who created the heavens and the earth is the God who loves me in such an intricate way is beautifully overwhelming.

And that love covers you as well. It is a love that sacrificed life, so that you can know that He is God. It is a love that shed His precious blood for you. The same blood that covers you. The same love that covers you.

His love turns fears into freedom, insecurities into covering.

Sought By Jesus

I have taken a lot of time reflecting on the woman who touched the edge of Jesus’ garment. You can find her story in Mark 5:25-34.

I bet she mustered up only enough courage to put one foot in front of the other. She had just enough faith to make her way through the crowd because she knew that if she touched His garment, she would be healed. And she was.

Right when she touched it, the bleeding stopped immediately.

Soon she would be able to be welcomed back. That was what she desired. She wanted to be loved. I bet that as He looked for her in the crowd, she didn’t want to be found. That as He saw her and as she fell at His feet trembling with fear of more rejection, she didn’t expect that this Jesus who she walked up behind would stop what He was doing to notice her. I bet she didn’t expect that as she told Him everything as her voice quivered, that He would look her in the face to say “Daughter.”

Beautiful one, He will seek you in a crowd to let you know that you are His. You are daughter.

How To Overcome Insecurity With Scriptures

I want to leave you with 3 key scriptures to reflect on when you are struggling with insecurities and fears:

  1. “By You I have been sustained from my birth; You are He who took me from my mother’s womb; My praise is continually of You.” Psalm 71:6
  2. “But now, this is what the LORD says-he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you.” Isaiah 43:1,2
  3. “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10

What are some scriptures that help you when you are experiencing insecurities? We would love you to share them with us!

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Jessica has a deep love for Christ and a desire to follow where He may lead. She is a writer who desires for women to know that they are loved by a beautiful Creator, and in hopes to encourage women in their walks with Christ, she began blogging on her site The Path I Follow. Jessica currently lives in Norwalk, CT with her husband Mike, and two children, Charlie and Olivia. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with friends and family, walks at the beach, helping with women’s ministry at her church, and relaxing on her parent’s boat. You can learn more about Jessica and read her weekly blog posts by visiting her website or Facebook page.

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  • Reply ANGEL March 19, 2018 at 10:12 am

    This is so true. 🙂 especially for women, we often get insecure and get to doubt our worth. It is very advisable to read scriptures and battle the lie with God’s truth.

  • Reply Andrea March 19, 2018 at 12:05 pm

    what i’m finding these days is that God is the security and the hope that the world can’t give us!

    • Reply Jessica Schneider March 20, 2018 at 9:12 am

      I am finding the same thing, although following Him isn’t always “safe” or “comfortable”, His arms are safe and secure.
      Jessica Schneider recently posted…Lead Me To The Rock

  • Reply Susan Evans March 19, 2018 at 1:33 pm

    I had someone tell me I looked terrible without make-up, too, and when it’s someone from your own family, it’s really rotten. Jesus made us just the way He made us. He didn’t make mistakes. We should accept ourselves because God does!
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  • Reply Melissa March 19, 2018 at 1:55 pm

    As I have gotten older I wear less makeup. Rarely do I wear it to work either. When I do wear it, it is to enhance the features that God gave me. That is what I want my daughter to see and believe.
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    • Reply Jessica Schneider March 20, 2018 at 10:58 am

      I have a daugther as well, and my deepst desrie for her is that I want her to know with everything in her that her true identity in is Christ.
      Jessica Schneider recently posted…Lead Me To The Rock

  • Reply Debbie Erickson March 19, 2018 at 2:44 pm

    This is a timely message. One of my chapters in my new nonfiction that will be published soon deals with the inward beauty instead of the outward. This message is coming to me in a few directions it seems. 🙂 I’m a make-up wearer, but trying to wear less as I get older. God looks at the heart! Inner beauty is much more important. Nice post, Jessica!
    Debbie Erickson recently posted…A Married Guy’s Encouragement to Single Parents

    • Reply Jessica Schneider March 20, 2018 at 9:19 am

      Glad that it was timely for you. “Beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
      Jessica Schneider recently posted…Lead Me To The Rock

  • Reply Julie Loos March 19, 2018 at 3:33 pm

    Embracing God’s truth about our worth in Him is life-changing! It’s so sad what people do in order to feel loved, and yet, they have God showering down blessings to them.

    • Reply Jessica Schneider March 20, 2018 at 10:53 am

      Yes, and we also have the choice whether to shower people with words that cause despair, or words that encourage.
      Jessica Schneider recently posted…Lead Me To The Rock

  • Reply Alice Mills March 19, 2018 at 4:53 pm

    I like to sit with Jesus and hold His hand in my prayer time. I imagine His warm hands holding mine and and it gives me such peace.
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  • Reply Lindsey Renee March 20, 2018 at 3:34 pm

    I love this! Thank you for being honest and sharing your some of those stories. I love the truths at the end though. Our identity is who we are as daughters, of the Most High King! Yet can’t we so easily forget.

  • Reply Leigha | MamaBirdsEmptyNest March 20, 2018 at 3:44 pm

    Jessica, thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us. I, too, deal with insecurity, self doubt, so on. This has really spoken to me. Your Sister, Leigha

  • Reply Kaalu March 21, 2018 at 6:10 am

    Mankind must always pray without season

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