My friend, I’ve had a burden on my heart. I know this may be hard to hear, but I love you too much to stay quiet anymore.
You take care of everyone but yourself, and it hurts me to see you worn out.
I know you love Jesus and you love people. And He taught us to love our neighbor as ourselves. He even said that what we do to the least of His people, we do also to Him.
I know you want to be His hands and feet. Especially as a woman, it’s hard to say no when people ask for help. It feels so cold to turn your back when someone needs you.5 Ways Jesus Set Limits on People-Pleasing Click To Tweet
What Does the Bible Say About People-Pleasing?
We all dream of hearing “well done my good and faithful servant, ” but my friend, even Jesus had limits.
In love, I offer a few examples from His ministry as permission for you to find freedom and rest.
5 Ways Jesus Set Limits on People-Pleasing
1.) Jesus Set Boundaries.
He helped those who believed in Him and walked away from agenda-laden demands.
People in Jesus’ hometown rejected Him when He began preaching. He helped very few people in Nazareth because of their lack of faith.
Later in His ministry, Jesus refused to heal when the crowds demanded a sign that He was the messiah.
2.) Jesus Said “No”
Jesus didn’t help everyone when it was time to move on. The disciples told Jesus that people in Capernaum were looking for Him after He’d healed Simon’s mother. Instead, Jesus left Judea because He came to preach there too.
3.) He Asked for Help
When word about Jesus spread, crowds of tens of thousands followed Him. As a human, He couldn’t do it all by Himself so He appointed the disciples to preach.
4.) He Made People Help Themselves
The blind man had to wash. The crippled man had to pick up his mat.
Jesus didn’t need their cooperation to perform a miracle. He wanted them to help themselves instead of being passive recipients.
5.) He Took Time Alone & To Focus on Those Closest to Him
Jesus retreated to the mountains to pray. He also had many private moments with His disciples.5 Scriptures to help you focus on pleasing God, not man. Click To Tweet
How to Find Rest People-Pleasing with God’s Help
So what’s a loving daughter of Christ to do when someone asks for help? When do you say “no”?
Ask God for His will in prayer.
And if you’re wondering just what does the Bible say about people-pleasing, I offer five Scriptures to help you.
5 Scriptures to Focus on Pleasing God, Not Man
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.Galatians 1:10
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.Proverbs 29:25
On the contrary, we speak as those approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel. We are not trying to please people but God, who tests our hearts.1 Thessalonians 2:4
It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in humans.Psalm 118:8
Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.Ephesians 5:17
Dear one, you have such a beautiful heart. I pray you will find rest in those who want what’s best for you, regardless of what’s in it for them.
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